There is an expression that I find myself using more and more often: “there’s too much shutting up in that job!” As I reflect on the opportunities that I’ve had, I recognize that there is a distinct reason why things have not worked out. You see, as confident as I think I am, not everything works out the way I’d like to think it will. Isn’t that the story of our lives?
career opportunities… Relationships… Major purchases…
I applied for a new job recently. Don’t be surprised! I’ve got… Like five! It’s a job that I’m certainly qualified for-probably overqualified for! But the timing is not right. I don’t know when the timing will be right. What I do know, is that I still need to find a balance between passion and responsibility. The job that I want is not a job that I need. And the job that I need is not the job that I want. Oh I’m good at a lot of things. I just haven’t managed the ability to know when the job is done. Passion will keep you at work until the wee hours of the morning. Responsibility will keep you working beyond the traditional obligation. That balance that I seek is where I falter.
With a hobby, you can start and finish whenever your heart desires. With a career, the job is not over until the boss says it is. Oh how wonderful would it be to be the boss over both your career and your hobby? Entrepreneurship!
I am Learning that educational advocacy (or advocacy of any kind) requires a great deal of discretion, cooperation, and knowledge. The discretion comes in knowing when to stop. The cooperation comes when understanding the importance of working with your team. The knowledge comes from experience. But when you are the voice for someone else, you have to know when to shut up!
Kenny Rogers once said, “you Gotta know when to hold them…” The balance between career and hobby should not be a gamble. It should be a precise calibration, or even a collaboration, between what is right and what is practical. Advocacy is not just speaking on behalf of someone else, but in developing strong leadership. A boss tells others what to do; but a leader demonstrates how to effectively get the job done. So many people want to be a boss. What we really need are more effective leaders.
While out walking around the mall amongst the hustle and bustle of holiday shoppers, I ran into my boss. As the conversation ensued I revealed to him that I had recently applied for a job elsewhere. Not the smartest thing to do. But in the spirit of the holiday and my desire to keep it 100%, I thought I would share it with him. When he asked me why I didn’t take the other job, my response was “there was too much shutting up in that job!” He didn’t flinch. He wasn’t concerned. Perhaps he knew that I was the type who would have a difficult time shutting up. I had to chuckle at my own revelation. As if he needed an explanation, I explained that to be effective as an advocate, I had to be a team player and work towards the team objective. Did I just explain to my boss that I was reluctant to work towards the team objective? I’m not sure how to answer my own question. Either way, I demonstrated to him that I was embracing (a newfound loyalty)… to my current job. I suppose I ought to demonstrate how I’m going to channel that passion at work on Monday morning. That is to be determined.
When working for some one else, one must be mindful of what he can and cannot say. I must be pretty full of myself or pretty darned confident that my job is secure. Now that is what you call false confidence! There is too much Schutten up in this job! Are there any jobs out there where you don’t have to shut up?
Even those people who get paid to speak, must follow a script.